TAPESTRIES OF GRIEF
4 - 19 September 2021
What is Tapestries of Grief ?
Tapestries of Grief is a multi-platform ‘festival’ that combines virtual talks, face-to-face experiential workshops, and a community art exhibition
TALKS
Understand more about the grief experience and how to support someone who is grieving in this series of virtual talks by professionals and bereaved persons.
Life After Caregiving: What’s Next?
照顾者如何面对丧亲后的生活？
Date: 11 Aug (Eng); 12 Aug (中文)
Time: 8pm
Venue: Zoom (Online)
Assuming the role of main caregivers to our loved ones living with advanced illnesses can sometimes be described as a ‘warfare’ with ourselves. We devote our time and energy to single-mindedly attend to them, putting aside other aspects of our lives. The burden of caregiving can put a toll on us and over time, we may start to ask if there is a future beyond caregiving. Yet, when our loved ones passed on, and we finally relinquish our caregiving duties, we begin to question how to live life without them? This talk explores the grief reactions of bereaved caregivers and suggest ways for others to support them.
照顾患有重症的亲人是一场与身心交战的磨练。我们专心一致地侍奉亲人，给予时间和精力，搁下当前的其他人事物，不时弄得自己身心疲惫，狼狈不堪。日积月累，我们开始质问自己还有没有将来？可是，当亲人离世后，卸下了照顾担子，我们又问：将来的日子该怎么过？这场讲座探讨照顾者失去亲人后的哀伤反应，提出建议让其他人学习如何支援丧亲的(前)照顾者。
About the speaker
Depression or Grief？
如何分辨抑郁和哀伤
Date: 18 Aug (Eng); 25 Aug (中文)
Time: 8pm
Venue: Zoom (Online)
Sadness is a common emotion encountered in the wake of a loss of a loved one. It is almost an expected reaction amongst the bereaved and hence regarded as normal. There are times when it can be more than that as in the case of a Depressive Illness.
This talk looks at how to distinguish these two entities and how they may be managed.
忧伤是失去至亲后一个常见的情感，被视为正常的丧亲反应。但是有时这忧伤却是抑郁的表现而需要进一步的跟进甚至治疗。这场讲座主要教大家如何辨别两者， 还有如何应对抑郁和哀伤。
About the speaker
PLAYON: Supporting Sibling Living with Grief
Date: 23 Aug 2022
Time: 8pm
Venue: Zoom (Online)
Dealing with grief can make a child’s life seem out of control — they may be bombarded with emotions that they don’t have the life experience or the necessary coping skills to handle. There is a great deal that can be done by adults to help siblings live with grief. In this talk, a practicing framework, PLAY ON (Pon, 2016) will be used to help you to understand the experiences of siblings living with grief, to know what support is needed and how to meet those needs in healthy, creative and meaningful ways.
About the speaker
Dr Alicia Pon, Clinical Consultant, PlayHeals Therapy
Navigating the Legal Landscape of Our Loved Ones' Virtual Legacies
至亲留下来的社交媒体遗物有哪些法律须知
Date: 1 Sep (Eng); 8 Sep (中文)
Time: 8pm
Digital Assets like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram connect us as individuals with others around us. However, when family members pass on or are incapable of managing their accounts, is it legal for us to access them? Is it legal for information about them to be shared by others? This talk addresses digital assets planning and the legal implications of others accessing the digital assets of the deceased.
社交媒体资产如脸谱、推特及Instagram等，是目前非常普遍的网上社交方式。但若亲人再也无法动用自己的网络社交账户，家人是否能够登入亲人的网络社交账户？他人是否能够在亲人逝世后上传或转发亲人的资料 ？这场讲座将会探讨社交数码遗产管理及相关的法律信息
About the speaker
Richard Siaw, Managing Director, R S Solomon LLC, Advocates and Solicitors
萧锦耀律师, 执行董事兼主任律师, R S Solomon LLC
Grief and the effect of COVID-19 at a Nursing Home
Date: 6 Sep 2022
Time: 8pm
Venue: Zoom (Online)
The threat of Covid 19 reduces the quality of life for nursing home residents. Especially during the outbreak of cases, with the "No Visitation" and "No Activities" restrictions imposed, the support and care of the residents naturally dropped onto the healthcare staff. When the death of a resident happens, how do the family members and healthcare staff cope with the loss? From the lens of an art therapist, Leng Hong will share her experience on the impact of loss on residents’ family members and her experience as allied healthcare staff.
About the speaker
Ong Leng Hong, Art Therapist, Pacific Healthcare Nursing Home
Suicide Grief - The Trauma Embedded in Grief
Date: 15 Sep 2022
Time: 8pm
Venue: Zoom (Online)
What makes suicide grief different from other forms of grief and losses? How does trauma look like when it’s embedded in the grief? How might professionals and caregivers’ journey with those in suicide grief?
Learn more about these questions and hear from a counsellor who works with clients in suicide grief. She will share more about those who have been impacted by suicide in their lives and their experiences in coping with their grief.
About the speaker
Naomi Toh, Counsellor, Team Lead for Postvention Support Work, Samaritans of Singapore (SOS)
The Expression of Grief in Widowers: Their Strengths to live on
Date: 23 Sep 2022
Time: 8pm
Venue: Zoom (Online)
There has been increasing interest to understand a man's grief. Do past literatures on men's grief survive the passage of time? This online seminar focuses on two men's grief whose spouses died from a serious illness. They will relate their backstory right from the dying process to bereavement and to some 2 to 15 years later in life. Has their grief changed their worldview about life and death? Are they forced to remain single, responsible and accountable to their children? Would they choose the same path again if time is rolled backwards for them? Do join us for these insights into men who grieve.
About the speakers
Chan Eng Chye, Panelist
Edmund Foo, Panelist
About the moderator
Dr Gilbert Fan, RSW, FAPA